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Reviving Your Resolution

It’s halfway through January. How can that be? It’s two weeks after most of Americans made at least one New Year’s resolution that you made with great. Though, if you’re like most Americans, your momentum has waned. You might even go so far as to chalk this up as another personal failure, and drop the whole thing. While personal failure is not supposed to be the goal of a New Year’s resolution, it often turns out that way.

The idea behind making a New Year’s resolution isn’t to make an unrealistic grand and glorious all-or-nothing life change on January 1st.So if you’ve found you’re faltering today is the perfect day to assess your progress, reevaluate your goal, reestablish reachable outcomes, and take action. After all, you want to be able to look back on this year with self-congratulations at the consistent patterns you have established for personal growth.  Right?

Making lasting change is difficult. If change is needed it is because there are two opposing forces working within our brains creating a civil war of sorts. Our logical brain knows exactly what needs to take place and how to make it happen. The other part of our brain engages in self-sabotaging all opportunities toward growth and change.

Generating lasting change requires a plan and one that includes corrective actions for when you begin to waiver. As quoted from the website, Center for Theory of Change, “Like any good planning and evaluation method for [social] change, it requires participants to be clear on long-term goals, identify measurable indicators of success, and formulate actions to achieve goals.” (http://www.theoryofchange.org/what-is-theory-of-change). The problem with most New Year’s resolutions is that they only define ultimate success.

If you have decided that it’s not time to drop your resolution, perhaps it is time to reassess your goal’s true value in your life. As a spiritual life coach I begin by asking my clients: is this resolution achievable? What is at the root of your resolution? Why did you decide on that for your goal? When you decided on this resolution, was it something you wanted to accomplish, something you thought you should do, or something someone else wanted from you? What is it that you really want to change?

Once you have defined a truly achievable goal, break the goal down into smaller, more easily measurable parts. Next, create a primary plan and a back-up plan for each of the goals. Be specific with your plan and include a specific and realistic timeframe for reaching each goals. Implement your plan. Does it meet your needs? Is the plan helping you inch your way to successfully achieving your goal? Evaluate your plan at close regular intervals. If you aren’t achieving success, adjust your plan. If your plan is too aggressive, back off. If it’s too boring, spice it up.

If your New Year’s resolution is something you truly want to change, the change will come about during the implementation of your plan. Action: that’s where new habits are born.

What changes are you trying to make this year?

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